Another concept that I tend to talk a lot about is balance, particularly whole health balance. I’m often noting that in order to live a content filled life, we must create a sustainable whole health balance. I even go so far as to connect physical (and emotional) health with balance.
But what is balance? Is balance some sort of magical measuring stick? Does everyone have the same scale and is balance exactly the same experience for each and every individual in the world? Indeed, is there a one size fits all template that describes balance along with a practical cookie cutter method for attaining balance?
Being in balance is somewhat akin to that feeling of self-love. In many ways, it is a form of contentment that covers every aspect of your life. It’s the living embodiment of who you truly are. More so than that, balance makes life worth living while enhancing passion and providing purpose. It also creates that important stable foundation that is going to allow you to be flexible enough to work through life’s many challenges.
More simply put, balance is a way of living or being. Balance takes every aspect of your life and puts it in its proper place and perspective. When every piece is in harmony, your life is said to be in balance.
I like to think of balance like putting together a huge jigsaw puzzle of our lives. Imagine that each of us is given a bunch of jigsaw puzzle pieces. Unfortunately, we aren’t given a box so we have no idea what we are actually creating or even if all the necessary pieces are there.
With no other alternative, we start sorting through the pieces. Sometimes, it’s easy to see groupings of similar colours, shade, or texture. We may even be able to make out the edge or border of the puzzle. However, there are always little tricky bits that don’t seem to make much sense with the rest, at least at first.
Of course, until we complete quite a bit of the puzzle we won’t know if we have extra pieces or pieces that are missing. Maybe we have two or three puzzles mixed together. Who knows, we might even have a series of seemingly unrelated puzzles that show different phases of our life.
All we can do is go through what we have before us and start putting things together. Group like together and see what we have. Then, over time, we can work further outwards to parts that are much more difficult to define and place them in the proper position.
Life balance is kind of like that. We look at our lives and we see things that fit right away. I am a wife, mother, and grandmother. Those things seem to fit together in a rational, even somewhat linear sense. After all, that’s one of the sequences that our society might term “normal”. I imagine a lot of people have similar bits just as many jigsaw puzzles have the sky along the top.
I write, I like to read, and I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. For me, those things go together like decorations on a Christmas tree, along with other symbols of valuable experiences. These aspects of my life may not blend into each other smoothly but once you realize the context, they do make sense as a grouping.
Of course, in everyone’s life there are the complex bits. These are the pieces that spice up our lives. In our puzzles, they add those extra little details that often add drama or realism to the final product.
For instance, my puzzle might include that I was once an archeologist, that I raise my oldest grandson, or that I am an introvert. It’s rather like finding some puzzle pieces with a bunch of random flowers that don’t seem to match anything else. In fact, some people might assume these pieces can’t be part of the same puzzle.
At first, all of these bits might not make much sense at all. How can I have sky, a Christmas tree, and some random flowers all in the same puzzle? Some of these aspects seem distinctly outdoor things while others seem more like things that would be inside a house. Moreover, random flowers in the midst of winter seem pretty ridiculous.
Yet, what if the scene was of my living room and it included a big picture window so that we could see the blue sky outside? What if those random flowers were in a vase or were the cover image on my favorite book? Or really thinking outside the box, what if this puzzle represented two pages of a book. On one side, there was a bright summer day showing my dream flower garden or a series of cut scenes of my favorite places in nature (my favorite things about summer). Then, on the other page, there was a beautiful Christmas scene with all my favorite people enjoying the day with me (my favorite things about winter).
Such is life and such is life balance. Sometimes, the parts are easy to define and group together. Other times, things don’t really make sense because you either don’t understand the context or you aren’t willing to think creatively. In any case, like jigsaw puzzles, our own unique life picture has a wide range of potentially different sizes, shapes, colours, and themes.