Round and Round We Go Again * Difficult Life Experiences


Difficult Life Experiences

Here we go again. Negative thoughts. Difficult experiences. Dark days and sleepless nights.

From time to time, I think we all get stuck in a whirlpool of negativity. All of our energy is spent on just getting through each day. No matter what we are supposed to be doing, our minds are stuck worrying or feverishly trying to figure out how to get out of the mess we are in.

I think when we are faced with a single life challenge, for the most part, it’s fairly easy to work through the process. With just a moment of clarity, we can weigh our options and come up with a plan of action. Even if this challenge requires a lifestyle change or a reality check, we can take our time to work whatever we need to do to integrate this new experience.

A Knot of Troubles

It seems though, that the biggest life challenges come in bunches. At the time, they can even feel like the world is being turned upside down or inside out. Layer upon layer of difficult challenges don’t seem to allow for any breathing room. Finding a solution is often complex and multifaceted requiring huge leaps in personal evolution.

I’ve had more than my fair share of these “gifts in disguise”. I’ve come to recognize that while such situations seem pretty dire at the time, they tend to provide opportunities for growth, self-understanding, and ultimately happiness. It’s only my negative judgement of the situation and my desire to control every little thing that makes these times feel so difficult.

In fact, like all life challenges, these bundles are merely transitional times. Growth. Evolution. Opportunities to move from the person we think we are to our genuine selves. In this way, these experiences are less about judgement and labeling ourselves and so much more about how we use this newly acquired information to reinforce how strong we are, how dedicated we are to caring for ourselves, and what we truly need to be happy.

Moving Gracefully through Transition

With that said, while in the midst of such situations, I think it’s natural to just want to find a solution, fix the situation, and move on with our lives. After all, transitions are uncomfortable and it takes time to integrate new aspects into our life. Usually, there’s a steep learning curve as well.

More so than that, most of us are not taught how to transition gracefully. Failure, floundering, and feeling lost are not skills that most of us value. In fact, most of us do everything in our power not to have to face such situations. Hence, our “freak out” when those layers of undesired reality start building up.

Obviously, we can’t force change to happen on our schedule so what can we do? How do we smooth the transition? Is it even possible to stay positive and balanced when the world is falling apart?